Instructions: Click the 'yes'
button next to the numbered question or statement that you find to be true. Your
score will be displayed and explained at the bottom of the page.
1. I generally feel
anxious in new social situations where I may not know what is expected of
2. I find it difficult to
hear critisism about myself.
3. I fear being made to
look like a fool.
4. I tend to magnify my
mistakes and minimize my successes.
5. I am very critical of
myself and others.
6. I have periods in which
I feel devastated and/or depressed.
7. I am anxious and fearful
much of the time.
8. When someone mistreats
me I think that I must have done something to deserve it.
9. I have difficulty
knowing who to trust and when to trust.
10. I often feel like I
don't know the right thing to do or say.
11. I am concerned about my
12. I am easily
13. I think others are very
focused on - and critical of - what I say and do.
14. I fear making a mistake
which others might see.
15. I often feel depressed
about things I've said and done, or things I failed to say or do.
16. I have avoided making
changes in my life because I was fearful of making a mistake or
17. I often get defensive
and strike back when I perceive I am being criticized.
18. I have not accomplished
what I am capable of due to fear and avoidance.
19. I tend to let fear and
anxiety control many of my decisions.
20. I tend to think
negatively much of the time.
21. I have found it
difficult to perform adequately or without embarrassment when involved in
22. I'm one of the
following: The person who reveals too much personal information about myself
or the person who
seldom reveals personal information.
23. I often get so anxious
that I don't know what to say.
24. I often
25. I try to avoid conflict
26. I've been told I'm too
27. I felt inferior or
inadequate as a child.
28. I tend to think that I
have higher standards than others.
29. I often feel like I
don't know what is expected of me.
30. I often compare myself
31. I frequently think
negative thoughts about myself and others.
32. I often feel that others
mistreat me and/or take advantage of me.
33. At night, I frequently review my day, analyzing what I
said and did or what others said and did to me that day.
34. I often make decisions
on the basis of what would please others rather than on what I want of without
considering what I want.
35. I often think that
others don't respect me.
36. I often refrain from
sharing my opinions, my ideas, and my feelings in groups.
37. I sometimes lie when I
feel that the truth would result in crticism or rejection.
38. I'm fearful that I will
say or do something that will make me look stupid or incompetent.
39. I do not set goals for
40. I am easily
41. I am not very aware of
42. I grew up in a
43. I think life is harder
for me than for most other people.
44. I often avoid situations
where I think I will be uncomfortable.
45. I tend to be a
perfectionist, needing to look perfect and to do things perfectly.
46. I feel too embarrassed
to eat out alone or to attend movies and other activities by
47. I often find myself
angry or hurt by the behaviour and words of others.
48. At times I get so
anxious or upset that I experience most of the following: heart racing or
tearfulness; blushing; difficulty swallowing or lump in my throat; shaking; poor
nausea or diarrhoea; 'butterflies'.
49. I am very fearful of criticism, disapproval, or
50. I rely on the opinion of
others to make decisions.
SCORE If you checked: 00-04
Statements....................You have fairly good self esteem
Statements....................You have mild low self-seteem
Statements....................You have moderately low self-esteem
severely low self-esteem
It's important to
realize that your score on this questionnaire in no way indicates that you are not
a quality person. Instead what it does is to measure how you view yourself. If you
have a healthy view of yourself, your score will be low. If your view of yourself
is unhealthy, your score will be high.
Be aware that it
will be difficult to raise children with healthy self-esteem, if you yourself
suffer from low self-esteem. Without realizing it, you will pass on the
attitudes, fears, and thinking that accompany low self-esteem.
Copyright © 2006, Marilyn J Sorensen
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